A simple middle class or upper middle class family is an earning husband with a beautiful housewife, who has dedicated her entire life for the kids and family, but at the end receives no applauds for the hardships she had.
Adding to the family would be conservative grandparents with a belief that only they deserve the respect and their decision on every particular topic is final, with two grandchildren a boy and a beautiful girl.
The so called heir of the family is well treated with due respect and high expectations. But the poor daughter though with the changing times do get to wear less stereotype Indian outfits , allowed to go out with friends to hang out and also has made a point to study as much as she can for a rewarding job.
To her all this doesn't come easily, she pays a price by not choosing an unconventional job such as modelling, acting, singing or any such office job which involves late nights, western outfits ,travelling,etc..
On the contrary the boy how much the prince he might have become at home with all his good image is someone who always chases girls maybe even tease them or must have involved in a couple of fights. But this all stays away from the family.
He might have loved someone from another religion but knows it cant be forever since we are Indians and Universal No to intercaste. He knows that had he even tried to convince his family the only answer with drama he has to face is "yeh shaadi nhi ho sakti" or may be "mere marne ke baad shaadi kar lena usse" from the beloved grandparents or even it could be possible they just bash him up with the torture of disowning him from the family.
Cliche...Huh ...but very much Truth!!!!!!!
Now lets make a little change in this family ,just a vision that might help us understand how beautiful a multi cultured society could be and how productive this nation could be with both the genders fighting equally and believed to be at same level.
What if the father and mother were both earning and not to much surprise the lady of the house is doing great at both fronts but sadly the Father met with an accident that had shed a lot on his medical expenses and to add that a rest of couple of years to recover. And willingly or not now the only earning source is mother's job which is certainly decent enough after her 24 years of service to run a family of six. Had then the male ego declined the peculiar idea of women not working. Or had the so called saas would have exhaled "Bahu sirf chulla chalka hi karti hai, bahar ake kaam nahi karti".
To not utter surprise for a burden free old-age she would have accepted the fact of her daughter in law working and feeding the family well. The man ego would not have come in the context of Father in law also who is at a meager pension every month.
But then irrevocably it happened that intellectual grand daughter while returning late from a conference got molested by local goons but a bit of self-defense knowledge helped her from being another rape victim. And when she informs the same to here parents with no tear of sorrow in her eye ,they ask her to file an FIR and Fight for the right.Or had daddi or ma saying not to tell police as people would get to know and then who would marry her. Certainly people would gets to know thanks to media and police making it big.A few years later, when they were searching for a suitable groom for her the only responses are not from handicapped ,divorcees or guys with a baggage, but rather it is reciprocated by guys who see her as well educated ,intelligent, capable, strong and fearless girl.
No wonder there would be number of rishtas from the same community willing to marry her but with a price , a dowry that last ages.Wish the damn father slaps them all and even expose them out. To intact the self respect of the daughter her father not only marries her to a guy who looked beyond the odds of society and is religiously from a lower caste but well known to be human.
The Beta or Vansh would now have no desire to hid or fear the reason of telling his parents that he loves a girl who is from a different religion. Will now, the elders of family deny it for the sake of it being inter-caste or rather they accepts it for the same reason for which they married the daughter to another caste.
May it not an instantaneous yes but I am sure it wont be a reluctant no.If you are reading this , great I am just requesting you that its not easy to change the society. To make vision come reality small but significant steps need to be taken. I have issues and so do you . We all want to be out of it to have a life where a person matters the most and not his/her religion,caste,gender,past,color, etc. Need for Change or Make A change!!!!!!!!!!!
Adding to the family would be conservative grandparents with a belief that only they deserve the respect and their decision on every particular topic is final, with two grandchildren a boy and a beautiful girl.
The so called heir of the family is well treated with due respect and high expectations. But the poor daughter though with the changing times do get to wear less stereotype Indian outfits , allowed to go out with friends to hang out and also has made a point to study as much as she can for a rewarding job.
To her all this doesn't come easily, she pays a price by not choosing an unconventional job such as modelling, acting, singing or any such office job which involves late nights, western outfits ,travelling,etc..
On the contrary the boy how much the prince he might have become at home with all his good image is someone who always chases girls maybe even tease them or must have involved in a couple of fights. But this all stays away from the family.
He might have loved someone from another religion but knows it cant be forever since we are Indians and Universal No to intercaste. He knows that had he even tried to convince his family the only answer with drama he has to face is "yeh shaadi nhi ho sakti" or may be "mere marne ke baad shaadi kar lena usse" from the beloved grandparents or even it could be possible they just bash him up with the torture of disowning him from the family.
Cliche...Huh ...but very much Truth!!!!!!!
Now lets make a little change in this family ,just a vision that might help us understand how beautiful a multi cultured society could be and how productive this nation could be with both the genders fighting equally and believed to be at same level.
What if the father and mother were both earning and not to much surprise the lady of the house is doing great at both fronts but sadly the Father met with an accident that had shed a lot on his medical expenses and to add that a rest of couple of years to recover. And willingly or not now the only earning source is mother's job which is certainly decent enough after her 24 years of service to run a family of six. Had then the male ego declined the peculiar idea of women not working. Or had the so called saas would have exhaled "Bahu sirf chulla chalka hi karti hai, bahar ake kaam nahi karti".
To not utter surprise for a burden free old-age she would have accepted the fact of her daughter in law working and feeding the family well. The man ego would not have come in the context of Father in law also who is at a meager pension every month.
But then irrevocably it happened that intellectual grand daughter while returning late from a conference got molested by local goons but a bit of self-defense knowledge helped her from being another rape victim. And when she informs the same to here parents with no tear of sorrow in her eye ,they ask her to file an FIR and Fight for the right.Or had daddi or ma saying not to tell police as people would get to know and then who would marry her. Certainly people would gets to know thanks to media and police making it big.A few years later, when they were searching for a suitable groom for her the only responses are not from handicapped ,divorcees or guys with a baggage, but rather it is reciprocated by guys who see her as well educated ,intelligent, capable, strong and fearless girl.
No wonder there would be number of rishtas from the same community willing to marry her but with a price , a dowry that last ages.Wish the damn father slaps them all and even expose them out. To intact the self respect of the daughter her father not only marries her to a guy who looked beyond the odds of society and is religiously from a lower caste but well known to be human.
The Beta or Vansh would now have no desire to hid or fear the reason of telling his parents that he loves a girl who is from a different religion. Will now, the elders of family deny it for the sake of it being inter-caste or rather they accepts it for the same reason for which they married the daughter to another caste.
May it not an instantaneous yes but I am sure it wont be a reluctant no.If you are reading this , great I am just requesting you that its not easy to change the society. To make vision come reality small but significant steps need to be taken. I have issues and so do you . We all want to be out of it to have a life where a person matters the most and not his/her religion,caste,gender,past,color, etc. Need for Change or Make A change!!!!!!!!!!!
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